Save the date or invitation?
A save the date asks guests to hold the day. The invitation asks them to come, with the times, the address and an RSVP date. The save the date goes first, months earlier, and only when guests need the notice.
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Side by side
They do different jobs, months apart.
| What differs | Save the date | Invitation |
|---|---|---|
| What it says | Your names, the date, and the city or venue if you know it | Everything: times, the full address, dress code, registry and how to RSVP |
| When it goes | 6 to 8 months before, earlier for a destination wedding | 6 to 8 weeks before |
| Who gets it | Guests you're certain of | Everyone invited, late additions too |
| What guests do | Hold the day, request time off and book travel | RSVP, and plan the day itself |
| Asks for an RSVP | No | Yes, by a date |
| Do you need it? | Only when guests need the notice | Always |
When to send both
Send a save the date when guests need time to plan: a destination wedding, a holiday weekend, a date more than eight months off, or a list where lots of people fly in. It holds the day before calendars fill, and the invitation follows with the details once you have them.
When the invitation will do
With four months or less to go, or a small wedding where everyone already knows the date, skip the save the date. Send the invitation now. It does both jobs.
A link first, paper later
Plenty of couples send the save the date as a link, because it's quick and nobody needs a mailing address yet, then mail a printed invitation once the details are settled. Guests get the date the evening you send it, and the card to keep comes later.
Questions
Is a save the date the same as an invitation?
No. A save the date only asks guests to hold the day. The invitation is the formal ask, with the details and an RSVP.
Does a save the date mean you're invited?
Yes. Anyone who gets one should expect an invitation, which is why couples send them only to guests they're certain of.
Do you RSVP to a save the date?
No. You RSVP to the invitation. If you already know you can't make it, a quick note to the couple is kind, but nobody expects one.
Can a save the date and an invitation go to different people?
The invitation can go to more people than the save the date did, such as late additions. It shouldn't go to fewer.
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